Sharon Wegscheider-Cruse decoded what is actually going on while the family struggles to contain and hide the problems an addicted member causes. To begin to understand is to dissolve the shame and to have hope that there are solutions that can be lived with. We all owe her and other pioneers a debt of gratitude. Her latest book reflects on her own life, with all its highs and lows. She hopes that we all will embrace our pasts, good and bad, with acceptance.