SAFETY FIRST FOR CHILDREN IMPACTED BY ADDICTION DURING MEMORIAL DAY FESTIVITIES

Memorial Day is often marked by community gatherings, family barbecues, and outdoor events like boating and beach parties. While these celebrations can provide fun and relaxation, they also often involve drinking and, sometimes, recreational drug use. For children growing up in homes where addiction is present, these environments can be complex and triggering. This Memorial Day, and throughout the entire weekend, it’s crucial to recognize the unique needs of these children and ensure they have the support and safety they require.

Children who grow up in environments impacted by addiction are particularly sensitive to the presence of alcohol and drugs. Such settings promote anxiety and confusion, and without proper support these kids may feel isolated, frightened, and even protective and responsible for younger brothers and sisters. It’s essential for communities and families to create a protective buffer around these children during celebrations that involve substances they might associate with trauma or neglect.

Providing Nurturing Environments During Holiday Festivities

Safe adults play a valuable role in this protective effort. They can be relatives, family friends, teachers, or community members who are aware of the child’s background and are committed to providing a stable and supportive presence. Adults can make a big difference and help these children by:

• Simply being available and observant can make a significant difference. Safe adults should stay sober and be vigilant, making sure the child feels secure and supported throughout the event.
• Designating areas at gatherings that are alcohol and drug-free can offer refuge for children who might feel overwhelmed. These spaces provide an environment where kids can retreat and engage in activities that divert their attention from any adult behaviors that might cause distress.
• Safe adults can involve children in games, crafts, or other engaging activities that keep them occupied and away from potentially harmful situations. This not only ensures the child’s safety but also helps them enjoy the festivities in a child-appropriate manner.
• Being a listener and a comforting presence can help children express any discomfort or anxiety they may feel. Recognizing their feelings and validating their experiences can alleviate the stress associated with these social situations.
• If the environment is expected to be risky, safe adults can plan alternative activities for the children, such as a movie day, a visit to a local park, or a small, controlled gathering with trusted family members or friends.

How to Help Children Getting into a Vehicle with a Parent Under the Influence

NACoA Senior Clinical Advisor Jerry Moe provides sage advice to adults concerned about parents who are under the influence and gathering their children with the intent to drive. Let the child(ren) know you want to make sure they arrive safely wherever they are going. Gently suggest they distract themselves by playing video games on their phones – with the volume low, watch music videos, or even read a picture of the Seven Cs stored on their phone. Ask them to text or call you when they arrive. Or call or text them after you have allowed enough time for them to reach their destination, to simply “check in” to make sure they are good, having fun, or whatever message you wish to send about the reason for the touchpoint. The best way for children to arrive safe in such situations would be to maintain calm the best they can, and if driving is erratic to remain as low as they can in their seat or on the car floor.

Join NACoA in the commitment to protect our most vulnerable populations over the Memorial Day weekend. By taking proactive steps to be sure that children impacted by addiction are cared for, we honor the spirit of community and the necessary safeguarding inherent in the holiday. Recognizing and supporting these children shows a communal commitment to nurturing and safety that transcends the challenges posed by addiction, fostering a healthier, more inclusive celebration for everyone.